Raise your hand if the art of decision making ever alluded you.
How did it make you feel?… Insecure? Overwhelmed? Stressed? Incompetent?
Here are some tips for you to embrace decision making once for all!
- Why it gets so hard?
- How does our mind works?
- Understanding the right process
Why it gets so hard?
We’ve been told that humans like challenges, then why is it so hard when it comes to decision making?
1-It involves having to choose between to good possibilities (it’s so hard to choose)
You find it hard to choose because both options offer instant gratifications (or negative outcomes). Focus on long term gratification; it could help you get crystal clear on the best path for you.
2-Not having clear if you care about the outcome (it’s the same to me)
Is it? If the matter is where to eat or to hang out, that’s fine. But if it’s something affecting in any way your happiness or your peace of mind, you could be giving up on yourself!
Don’t! You deserve to be happy and enjoy your life every single moment, even when you’re relaxed on the couch with a cozy blanket.
Imagine yourself doing both options, which one sparks joy for you.
(I love Marie Kondo)
3-You have a mess of priorities in your head (I can’t deal with it right now, we’ll see what happens)
There are so many responsibilities in your daily life that sometimes you can forget about major priorities, love, happiness, fulfillment.
I know the thought of happiness can come with guilt when you have to pay the bills or being productive. But again, you deserve to be happy, and you owed to yourself to fight for the life you truly want.
The trick isn’t about knowing your priorities but putting them in order.
Balancing your priorities with your responsibilities is a lot harder than it sounds, but it’s worth it.
Tell me in the comments below why desition making is hard for you. n_n
How does our mind works?
Various internet sources estimate that an adult makes about 35,000 remotely conscious decisions each day (in contrast, a child makes about 3,000 Labuzetta, 2013). This number may sound absurd, but in fact, we make 226.7 decisions each day on just food alone, according to researchers at Cornell University. As your level of responsibility increases, so does the smorgasbord of choices you are faced with.
Your brain automatizes most of your choices, but when it comes to transcendent decisions, your guts could be not enough. I guess you can see where I’m going; your mind will go with your instincts or will analyze the alternatives.
Going with your gut is not rocket science for anyone; we all did it at some point, and we rarely do it when something really matters.
When your brain analyzes the alternatives, you have two possible scenarios:
1-Whether to do or not to do:
When you go for black or white.
2-To go with which of the options:
You are looking for other possibilities out of the obvious ones.
Which one has a better chance of succeeding? The second one.
You might say, “it’s overcomplicating things.” Still, when you search for different paths, you get creative and in consequence, built a stronger decision with powerful arguments.
It does not have to take an eternity, and you can’t cover all possible scenarios. It’s more about getting yourself out of your head. Keep reading to see what I mean.
Understanding the right process of decision making
I hope you are not disappointed when I’ll say this: There’s not a “best way.” Sorry If you were expecting a step by step, but don’t worry! I have something better; because you don’t need a recipe but to know how the ingredients work.
The truth is that any technique can be useful as long as you have clear two simple facts:
1- Don’t lose the full picture.
The chaos theory explains how zoom in our out can show different aspects of the same object.
The reason for which we lose the full picture so often is that we frame the facts we know, and just the facts we agree with.
- Asking yourself what aspects or facts could be useful information is a way to see a bigger picture.
- Get out of your mind and see it from a third-person perspective.
- Consider secondary effects or collateral damages that can help you zoom out even farther away.
2-Your decisions reflect your values.
Your decisions define you. As long as you have them clear, you won’t regret anything even if something goes wrong.
Deciding with your values is a way to keep your peace of mind.
Being consequent with them is a way of changing the world.
Don’t worry; I’m conscious that this might sound obvious, I’m also sure it gets lost in real life.
And I know it’s a thousand times easier to write about decision making than actually considering my self good at it. But you have to start somewhere. Right?
Why should you love decision making?
Because it puts you in charge of your life.
Who is the boss of you?
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